Ben’s official nickname; Constant Human Contact Baby. Dear god, someone help us.
Mike and I are not baby holders. We love babies but we love them in their swing and in their crib and on the play mat. We like to hold babies when it is time for them to eat or when we are in the mood to snuggle them (which is a lot but not all the live long day.) Nate was all for this type of parenting he was easy-going and mellow. Ben? HAHAHA! OMFG WHERE IS THE VODKA? You have to hold him, it’s not up to us, it’s up to him and he will remind my in 2 seconds flat that he is in charge. He has about two hours per day where he is content, one period in the morning and one in the evening, the rest of the time he is one whimper away from a total meltdown. Except when we are out of the house, he loves outside, a moving car and shopping. We get out a lot becuase the day is just easier that way. Except that it’s not because he’s 8 weeks old and up 3 times a night to eat so getting out is sort of like a zombie field trip.
He has to be held. I fought it for weeks until he finally broke me when I couldn’t take the screaming one more second and strapped the little stinker to my chest where he’s pretty much been since then. I do everything with him either in my arms or in the bjorn (again, thanks metabolism for completely disregarding this!) while I’m adjusting to it I hate it. I just want to use the darn bathroom without him. It’s driving us a bit crazy. I keep testing him, putting him in the swing for little periods, or in his bouncer and it seems like he will be fine and then, whaaaaa. It’s making Nate a bit nuts, too, he’s acting like it’s a noise contest and just yells over the top of him and that’s as relaxing as you’re imagining. But then there are those two good hours and all is right with the world. I can’t get enough of happy Ben though I love CHCB, I really enjoy happy Ben. I feel guilty for being frustrated and while I melt as soon as I pick him up and instantly he feels so good and I love having him in my arms (because he shuts up immediately) I just really hope this doesn’t last for ever, I want my left arm back and to stop driving extra laps around our block . I’d like to have a relaxing day at home where he can be put in his swing long enough for me to load the dishwasher or fold some laundry. I want to pick him up because I can’t resist him, not because he’s crying again. This wont last forever, right?