One thing that has been missing in my/our life since becoming parents is time alone together. We had a come to Jesus this weekend about having to get this figured out before starting on #2. We have an issue with being in OH alone. Sure, we have friends now and some great neighbors but we don’t know anyone that has a kid or knows a kid that babysits.
Because I’m not comfortable with calling a kid who’s name is on a tab of paper on the cork board at Starbucks, or checking Craig’s List we just don’t go out without Nate. I hold out hope that someone will come into our life (SOON?) and this will eventually be resolved. But, in the meantime I have devised my own plan.
Date Night in the Suburbs! We came up with staying home in style. Saturday nights will be date night. We will treat it like a real date. After Nate goes down for the night (@7:30) we will pop open a bottle of wine and have dessert. I will either bake something during the day or we will get something from a local restaurant. We will chill either outside on the deck or in the dining room both with candles and music. We will sit across a table from each other and talk. I promise not to wear sweats, he promises to talk about more than work.
It’s no night out, I know that. But, it is something that is serisouly missing in our relationship recently. It never accured to me that we may have to adjust things and relearn some of how to be a couple once a kid was here. But we do. So we are. We have come to realize that we are putting all of our effort into being Mom/Dad and not too much into Husband/Wife.
I’m totally looking forward to it. I think it’s exactly what we need and, it will get me to finally install the lights for the dining room!