Well, I spoke too soon with the “similar taste” and “fun to shop” BS! This was true with everything we have purchased together until now. We have talked a lot about what our ideas are for this room and I have given in on a few things already. Someone else, not so much in the give area. Ahem- MIKE!
Our idea is the same in that we want a room that feels warm and relaxing. We both like deep colored wood and want a saturated (but not bright) color on the walls, curtains and we agree with what we want for art. Start with all wedding photos in black and white (maybe sepia depending on our wall color) we have some amazing photos from the day and I love the idea of them being in our room. Over time we will collect some other things to add but we will start with our wedding pictures, white mats, black frames.
My first want was all white bedding- VETO! Okay, fine. So I do some looking and find these two, love!
Sort of gender neutral, right? I’m thinking he will love this, it’s modern looking and cool and we can choose any paint color we want. VETO! Damn. This is not sitting well with me, I was totally married to the black and white/cream. I was in love with how it looked in my head with a bold wall color and our wedding photos, crisp white curtains with a black ribbon detail.
I want mismatch stuff, I don’t want my room to look like I pointed to a set and said wrap it up. Two different night stands, one round maybe and another with drawers and rectangle, maybe even different colors. I want an armoire for the TV that looks old and a little beat up with a set of drawers on the bottom of the cabinet. I want two dressers, one high one low -long one with 6 or 8 drawers. In my head my beautiful jewelry box that Mike got me for our first Christmas we were married, finally displayed and out of the closet with a mirror hung over it but not one of those 90’s mirrors that match the dresser. An oval one that is hung on that side of the long dresser. I want new lamps, both different for the nightstands and maybe a 3rd for one of the dressers. I want a beautiful room.
I believe that Mike does. too. But I think our ideas of beautiful are a little bit different. In the tenure of our relationship every time a paint color is discussed he has three ideas, they never change. 10 years, 3 colors. They are tres romantic. Olive, Mustard, Burgundy. Heh. He wants colorful bedding but I cant figure out what that means. I keep showing him pictures and it’s okay or no. His head just isn’t like mine, he isn’t thinking about this outside of our conversations. I mean, he is a dude. Of course he’s not closing his office door and looking at Restoration Hardware on-line. Too bad, he’s totally missing out.
My idea of a new bed is a King, which we agree completely. Expensive sheets (agreed- I recently got a set of sheets, not knowing what thread count we already had I grabbed 300 and THEY ARE LIKE SANDPAPER!) Pillow top mattress and down everything, comforter and pillows. So, our idea of comfort is meshing. That is a good start. But, he wants a sleigh bed or a leather head board. Our guest room is leather with brass nail heads so we are not having two rooms that are the same. The sleigh bed seems too masculine to me, so heavy and in a King it will be way too much wood (that’s what she said!) So, we are mostly in agreement with the frame now but I’m not 100% yet. He has decided he wants Iron now, I am cool’ish with Iron. I can visualize it and I think it will be perfect with the mismatched pieces. So these are the two front runners.
I like the first one much better, the 2nd is cheap looking and I don’t know about the don’t fall out of bed/mattress holder things. Whateve… I also love this one but haven’t showed him yet.
So, we have a lot to decide on. Big stuff like do we get a chair? Little stuff like, mustard. Really? What has me stumped is the fabrics. I just thought I would get what I want with no issue and now I’m at the beginning again and I don’t know what I want. I know for sure that mustard and burgundy/red are not an option. With our entire main floor decorated in those colors I cannot do another one, I want something different. I am leaning toward green, but I won’t call it olive. We need to get out there and go shopping, cause apparently I married the one guy who has his own opinion. I keep suggesting it as our weekend activity and he hasn’t wanted to go yet. He wants the room but he cannot give me all of the power, he cares just enough to not let me run wild. But, he sort of hates to shop (read: spend lots of money all in one day) so he has to be in the mood. Maybe he will be ready by November?
In the mean time I will keep collecting ideas and hope that I will find something that we can both live with and enjoy. And if it tuns out anything like the living room it will be nothing like what I am planning in my head and take on it’s own life with one wacky choice (hello polkadot chair) and end up being completely different. We’ll see!